Belinda wiley
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3/14/2025

Why Do You Feel Too Tired Yet Still Want to Instigate Sex?

Why Do You Feel Too Tired Yet Still Want to Instigate Sex?

This is so common - your body and your mind feel exhausted, yet somewhere in the back of your mind, there is still a faint desire for intimacy.  How can you want something yet feel too tired or even fearful of acting on it?

The answer lies between physical fatigue, emotional fatigue and lack of desire, which can be both mental and physical.

Why this is happening

The daily check list, stress and lack of quality down time, all take a toll on energy levels.  But intimacy is not just about physical readiness; emotional and mental arousal play a big role.  Sometimes, even when your body is tired, the need for closeness, affection and stress relief through intimacy remains strong.

3 ways to navigate this

  1. Communicate and adjust:  Be honest with your partner.  Adjusting expectations and finding different ways to connect physically - whether through touch, cuddling, or honest chat about what is going on for each of you - can keep the connection alive

  1. Shift the timing: If evenings feel too exhausting, consider connecting in the morning or another option is to get out of your home and find a neutral place that feels exciting to each of you. The well rested body is more likely to respond positively

  1. Prioritise rest and reconnection: Quality sleep, stress management, and small moments of physical affection throughout the day or at least once in the morning and again in the evening, can make intimacy feel more natural, rather than just another task.

Being present to your body’s needs while still honouring your desire for connection is key.

With small adjustments, you can enjoy intimacy without pushing yourself beyond your limits.

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